A few months into dating my girlfriend, Diana (while I was still in an open marriage), I sat across from my empathetic and whipsmart coach in a session. I gushed to her about how lit up I felt about my new relationship, which was understandably causing a deep inner conflict about my marriage. I vaguely remember hearing my coach float a completely rational idea, saying something like, “You don’t need to make any decisions right now. What might it feel like if you and Diana took some physical space from each other, so you can find some balance and clarity?” Words akin to those came out of her kind face, crossed the air between our chairs, and landed on the rug about a foot in front of me. I didn’t take them in that day because I was helplessly intoxicated by and on absolute fire about my new love interest. While in that heightened state, downshifting to a slow burn felt like an offense to my blazing soul. Not long after I ignored m…
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